April 12, 2012
I have this friend. He’s brilliant and funny….and damn near blinded by negativity. It’s kind of amusing, in a Rain Wilson on ‘shrooms sorta way, but it wears on you…..and on his clients.
I, for one, can’t stand it. Not anymore.
I don’t know for sure, cats, but I am pretty positive that focusing on the idea that at any moment a SAFE can fall on your head nearly ENSURES that it will happen.
So – I steer clear.
And you should, too.
There are many, many professionals out there who use the language of fear to market their services. There are plenty of entrepreneurs who spend their days shoring up the castle walls, only to have a butterfly drop an A-bomb in the middle of their plans. There are many gifted people who believe in all kinds of mayhem – and you know what? They’re RIGHT. It happens to them….because that is the vision of reality they PREFER.
This idea that we attract what we put out there is not just some conspiracy theory to get us to buy more Birkenstocks or VW vans. It’s just a decision on each and every one of our parts: do we want to wallow in our negative thoughts and act like Eeyore? Do we want to beat ourselves up, beat our heads against the wall — and then congratulate ourselves for being “warriors”? Do we want to live our work-lives (and WHOLE lives) in that kind of crap-rific-yuckiness….Or….do we want try something new.
I, for one, choose NEW.
One thing needs to be very clear for all of us entrepreneurial types: a positive mindset = prosperity mindset. Simple. But not always easy. You need to begin to train your brain to start thinking differently — about everything. It’s not a trick – it’s been proven in dozens of studies that focusing on a thing draws it to you. And if positive thinkers attract more of what they focus on, why not go in that direction? Our minds are more powerful than we think. Pun intended.
OK – here are some quick tips on how to shift your perspective:
1. Change your vocabulary. Remove words like “can’t”, “won’t” and “never”. These words just drain any possibility out of a conversation, an idea, a project or program with a client. These words also affect your own ability to accomplish what you hope to accomplish in life: the minute you tell yourself that you can’t, you’re right. It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy. Try using phrases like, “I’ll find a way,” or even better “I will.” It may take some time to train yourself, but it’s worth it.
2. Live in an Attitude of Gratitude. No matter what’s going on, we can all find some bright spots even in the toughest moments. This is another “train your brain” exercise and it’s about being appreciative of what you have and what you’re being offered. Finding that “appreciation switch” raises your energy and trains your brain to see the good and the gift in everything. Take a moment each day to write a list of all that you’re grateful for — your car, your home, your family, your life. Nothing’s perfect – but appreciating those gifts will truly elevate your energy – in a good way. This attracts more good stuff into your life – more good people, good clients, happy times and World Series Titles to your favorite teams. Oh, well, maybe.
3. Remove Negativity and Replace it with Positivity. This is about internal thoughts. Take some time to listen to your internal dialogue. Scary, huh? When I did this, I was amazed at how much negative stuff I would think – without even thinking about it. Again, train your brain. And when you hear these negative thought patterns, just say STOP. And then, try again. Eventually, you will talk yourself out of those negative thoughts and it will reflect in your face and your demeanor – even if you don’t say a word.
4. Put Your Plans Into Action. All of these positive words and thoughts don’t go anywhere without you adding a little fuel to the fire in terms of ACTION. Do something about those dreams, those positive affirmations, those good conversations with clients. List your new goals, show your self the path, and then DO IT. Just like Nike says. The power of positive thinking needs some legs for it to truly draw more prosperity to your practice — and your life.
OK, cats? School is out….